I’m a “no” mom. One of those moms who has a hard time saying yes to my kids. It’s not because I’m mean or want to squash all the fun out of life. Sometimes I might say no because it’s just seems easier. If I say no then there won’t be a mess to clean up, if I say no then I won’t be inconvenienced.
Let me say this painful truth again, if I say no then I won’t be inconvenienced.
Yes, I said that. I say no a lot because it feels like a big inconvenience to say yes to my kids.
I’ve been realizing that no is rarely ever the right answer. I can still hear Dr. Laura’s words in my ears saying, “You need to say yes to your kids all the time. If it’s not dangerous, deadly or illegal why are you saying no?” Or something like that. The world will do a fine job of saying no to our kids, don’t you think?
I want to be a “yes” mom. I really do. But it’s really hard for me. I’m working on changing that, I’m working on being less selfish and more willing to change my agenda and my to do list to leave room to saying yes. Because when I’ve scheduled and structured my day so much then there is no room for spontaneous yeses to my kids.
Isn’t that true of our lives as well? We think things should fit neatly in a box (at least I do), then God interrupts. He asks us to do something, he tries to bless us, he tries to reveal himself to us, and we’re too busy saying no the unplanned that we miss the greater thing he is doing.
I don’t want the word yes to be a difficult thing to say, to my kids or to my God.
It’s a challenge for me to say yes, but I’m up for it. How about you? Is this a struggle you have, or do you find yes easy?
(and here’s a little picture of our trip through the mustard fields down in California)